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AUTISTIC

Navigating Autism: Understanding, Support, and Real-Life Strategies 🌈

Autism isn’t a flaw in the system. It’s a different operating system. 🧠✨

For many adults—especially women—Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) isn’t diagnosed until later in life, if

at all. And that late discovery can come with a mix of clarity, grief, and relief. You’re not too much. You

were never ā€œbroken.ā€ You were simply autistic—and doing the best you could in a world not built for your

brain.

At The Lorelei Molinari Home of Mental Health Info & Support Groups, we hold space for those of us

who grew up masking, mimicking, or feeling out of place—only to discover that autism explained so

much. If that’s you, let’s walk this road together. šŸ’›


What Is Autism, Really?

Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) is a neurodevelopmental condition that affects communication, social

interaction, and behavior. But autism is not a disease—and it’s not something to ā€œfix.ā€ It’s a unique brain

wiring with both challenges and incredible strengths.


Autism is called a ā€œspectrumā€ for a reason—because every autistic person is different. Some need daily

support. Others live independently, excel professionally, and still struggle quietly in social or sensory-

heavy environments. There's no one way to be autistic. šŸ’¬šŸ’”


Signs of Autism in Adults

Recognizing autism in adulthood often starts with that gut-level feeling of, ā€œWait… this has always been

me.ā€ Common signs include:

šŸ”¹ Social Differences: Struggling with small talk, social norms, or interpreting body language

šŸ”¹ Communication Style: Preferring direct, clear language over subtle cues or sarcasm

šŸ”¹ Repetitive Routines: Relying on structure, rituals, or specific sequences

šŸ”¹ Sensory Sensitivities: Intense discomfort around lights, sounds, fabrics, or smells

šŸ”¹ Hyperfocus & Special Interests: Deep dives into topics others may not understand

And while these can be labeled as ā€œquirks,ā€ they often impact daily life—especially when misunderstood

or unsupported.


The Strengths and Challenges of Adult Autism 🌟

Let’s be honest: life on the spectrum as an adult can be both beautiful and brutal.

Common Challenges:

šŸ’¬ Difficulty with social interaction

🧩 Executive functioning struggles (planning, starting, or completing tasks)

šŸŒŖļø Overstimulation and burnout from masking

Core Strengths:

šŸ” Strong attention to detail

🧠 Deep focus and knowledge on specific interests

šŸ¤ Authenticity, loyalty, and powerful empathy (yes, empathy!)

Being autistic doesn’t mean being less—it means being wired differently. With the right environment and

support, those differences can absolutely become your superpowers.


High-Functioning Autism: A Misleading Label?

Some adults are labeled ā€œhigh-functioningā€ because they appear independent or successful. But many are

quietly exhausted, anxious, or constantly masking. šŸ˜”

ā€œHigh-functioningā€ doesn’t mean the struggle isn’t real. It just means the outside doesn’t show what it

costs you on the inside. Let's drop the labels and focus on support, not appearances.


Diagnosis and Self-Discovery Later in Life

For many adults, especially women and gender-diverse individuals, diagnosis comes after years of

misdiagnoses—depression, anxiety, bipolar, borderline, or even just ā€œtoo sensitive.ā€

A late autism diagnosis can bring:

šŸŽÆ Validation: ā€œI wasn’t crazy—I was autistic.ā€

😄 Grief: For the years spent misunderstood

šŸ’” Empowerment: Knowing your brain helps you build a better life around it

You don’t need permission to seek answers. And you don’t need a formal diagnosis to deserve support.


Thriving With Autism: Strategies That Help

Living as an autistic adult takes creativity, self-compassion, and practical tools. Here’s what helps:

āœ… Create predictable routines

āœ… Use sensory tools (noise-canceling headphones, sunglasses, soft clothing)

āœ… Take social breaks without guilt

āœ… Schedule downtime after high-stimulus situations

āœ… Communicate needs clearly—you don’t owe the world ā€œnormalā€

And yes—autistic joy is real joy. It just looks a little different. šŸŽØšŸŒ±


Work and Career Success šŸ§‘ā€šŸ’»

Traditional workplaces aren’t always autism-friendly—but with the right role and accommodations,

autistic adults thrive in environments that value precision, creativity, and focus.

šŸ’¼ Job Matching: Lean into your interests and strengths

šŸ—‚ļø Written Instructions: Ask for clarity in tasks and expectations

šŸŽ§ Quiet Workspaces: Minimize overwhelm by reducing sensory input

šŸ—£ļø Advocate for Yourself: You have a right to reasonable accommodations

You're not unprofessional—you just have different processing needs. And that’s valid.


Navigating Relationships and Community šŸ’ž

Social connections can be hard—but they are possible, and meaningful. You just need the right people.

šŸ’¬ Join autism support groups (virtual or local)

🌱 Practice social scripts—they’re helpful, not fake

šŸŽØ Build relationships around shared interests

šŸ§ā€ā™€ļø Honor your boundaries—it's okay to say no or need recovery time

You're not ā€œbad at relationships.ā€ You just relate differently—and that’s beautiful when respected.


Managing Sensory Sensitivities šŸ”Š

Lights too bright? Sounds too sharp? Clothing tags unbearable? That’s sensory sensitivity, not fussiness.

Strategies:

šŸ•Æļø Create calming spaces at home or work

šŸŽ§ Noise-canceling headphones are your best friend

šŸ“¦ Pack sensory kits with fidgets, sunglasses, snacks

šŸ§˜ā€ā™€ļø Schedule quiet time like your peace depends on it (because it does)

You’re not being dramatic. Your nervous system is just wired for depth.


Mental Health & Well-Being šŸ§˜ā€ā™€ļø

Autistic adults are more prone to anxiety, depression, OCD, and burnout—especially if undiagnosed or

unsupported.

šŸ’› Therapists who get autism make all the difference

šŸ’› Mindfulness, routines, and self-care help regulate emotions

šŸ’› Building a support network can be life-changing

Mental health isn’t separate from autism—it’s part of the whole picture.


Therapeutic Approaches That Work

🧩 ABA (Applied Behavior Analysis)—controversial for adults, but some find value in adapting it for

social or life skills

🧠 Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)—especially when tailored for autistic minds

šŸ¤ Occupational Therapy—to support sensory and executive functioning

šŸ‘©ā€āš•ļø PDA-Informed Care—for those with Pathological Demand Avoidance profiles

What works for one may not work for another. That’s okay. Your care should reflect you.


Embracing Neurodiversity šŸ’«

We’re not broken—we’re different. The neurodiversity movement reminds us that autism is a natural, valid

part of human diversity.

šŸŒ World Autism Awareness Month (April) celebrates these differences

šŸ“¢ Self-advocacy and peer-led spaces are leading the conversation

šŸŽ‰ Celebrating strengths instead of pathologizing differences

You don’t have to conform to be accepted. You have to be understood.


Final Word: You Belong Here 🧔

Autism in adulthood comes with questions, grief, triumphs, and transformation. Whether you’re newly

diagnosed, self-identified, or still figuring things out—there’s room for you here. 🫶

You’re allowed to move at your own pace. To unmask. To find joy. To be fully, unapologetically you.

Click the Support Groups Schedule button above to find a time that feels right for you.

We’ll be there—ready to welcome you into a space where autism is respected, honored, and celebrated.


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